It’s often unspoken. You’re pregnant, there’s joy, anticipation, trepidation and then you’re not. In my case, I know in my heart, I miscarried because I went down an indoor slide with one of my children. I remember the moment, even though I lied to myself for years that I didn’t. There was a jolt halfwayContinue reading “Pregnancy loss”
Author Archives: TLH
Attachment
A great deal of literature and research exists on attachment. This is primarily a western concept but given my colonial background, that’s what I’ll focus on today. Attachment theory (Bowlby) says that a child needs a bond with a primary carer (usually a mother), to develop and make sense of the world. They learn aboutContinue reading “Attachment”
Negotiating social media with tween
It’s the moments many parents fear – the time when you need to negotiate with your tween about getting a phone, connecting to a social media site, monitoring the site and everything else in between. When this first starts, there’s often a great deal of nagging, complaining, coercion, pleading, fury, stamping, stomping, slamming (and everyContinue reading “Negotiating social media with tween”
Parties, party, paa-aaa-rrrrr-ty (more like a moan than a roar).
The children’s birthday party – as the years tick over we cherish them and want them to be memorable. As parents, we feel nostalgic for our childhood. We feel envious about what others have now and want to keep up. We just want our kids to have moments that stand out. Smiling at drop offsContinue reading “Parties, party, paa-aaa-rrrrr-ty (more like a moan than a roar).”
When their friends burn them.
Belonging. It’s hardwired in all of us. Humans are made to connect and feel and move towards each other. When we are born, our first instinct is to move towards the love of a parent. As a parent, we want to protect our young and want them to feel protected in their pack. At eachContinue reading “When their friends burn them.”
White line fury. Or is that fever?
Children’s sport. The phrase which can make parents shiver in fear, worry and with excitement. The letting go of our dreams of being a VNL netballer, Australian Open victor, AFL grand finalist, sharp clay shooter …..and the list goes on, can consume us. I turn up to kids sport and I see hopes, dreams andContinue reading “White line fury. Or is that fever?”
Your relationship is bleeding…
Parenting impacts your relationship in a whole range of ways you had never thought about. Maybe you were aware of some of it, but thought it wouldn’t happen to you. One of the key losses to your relationship is space. Space without a shadow (metaphorically and literally!). The literal is your child/children who are alwaysContinue reading “Your relationship is bleeding…”
The letting in of the loose!
We all remember what it was like to really let loose. Think back to the uni days, your adolescence, the first time you go out after having a baby, the drought breaker or maybe what you imagine it would be like. The wild nights where you wake up searching your brain for clues to whatContinue reading “The letting in of the loose!”
IVF journey..
To have children, we needed to do IVF. I have a 10 and an 8 year old who keep me on my toes every day, every minute and every second (well except when I tune out and tune in to reading/yoga or just not hearing them for ten minutes!). Reflecting on that journey 10 yearsContinue reading “IVF journey..”
The void – returning after summer holidays.
School starts tomorrow. There’s parents around the country jumping with joy – no more juggling child care, fun and work. There’s the agony of it all – back to lunches, timetables, early rising. In our house, it’s the battle raging about what lunchbox is necessary and/or desired and do the two match up in expectations?Continue reading “The void – returning after summer holidays.”
Parenting and paper cuts. 